Growing up, did you ever feel like you just weren’t pretty enough? When I hit my teenage years, I thought - are my breasts too small, am I too short, are my eyes too chinky, is my skin too dark? And then, will anyone find me attractive? What’s destructive is that we usually assess our own physical features against a standard of beauty based on what we see in the media, in the magazines, and sometimes even our own families. And when we think we don’t measure up, we feel less confident. It took me a while to feel comfortable in my own skin, and realize that being attractive, being sexy even, isn’t just about my body or my physical features.
What does it mean to be sexy? In the past, sexy was a dirty word - usually associated with arousing sexual urges. Today, sexy is not just about gender or sex - it has been used to describe an idea, a place, a lifestyle, a trait. I’m sure you’ve heard the term “smart is the new sexy.” Being sexy today now refers to something that is exciting and stimulating.
Being sexy is an attitude that comes from the confidence that sexy is not just about our bodies but also about our minds, our hearts, our actions. You can be in a messy bun and an oversized shirt, and still be sexy and attractive. It’s about being beautiful inside and out. So, how do you feel sexy in your own skin? Here are 10 ways
SPEAK YOUR MIND
Nothing is sexier than a woman who can speak her mind and be unapologetic for what she stands for.
You don’t have to be a rocket scientist. Learning, reasoning, planning, critical thinking, creativity, and problem solving are all related to intelligence. At work, know your stuff, study, and be prepared.
BE GREAT AT SOMETHING
You can be a great cook, a great dancer, a great artist. You can be great at telling stories or telling jokes. Or you can be great at organizing and planning family vacations. Whatever it is, you have a unique talent that people usually go to you for. Having mad skills is super sexy.
Setting short-term and long-term goals for yourself to further improve yourself and get the life that you want is extremely sexy. We love go-getters!
A kind soul is an attractive soul. It’s not sexy to be nice to your friends but be rude to the waitress or the parking attendant. Being kind, considerate, respectful to everyone is sexy.
Being generous means having an abundance mindset instead of thinking that giving takes away from you. You can be generous with your time, your knowledge, your support, your praise.
OPEN THE DOOR SO OTHERS CAN WALK THROUGH
Literally and figuratively. With power comes responsibility. We stand on the shoulders of giants. We win by helping each other up. If you are in a position to help others move forward, do it. Blaze the trail so others can follow.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
A sexy woman is a woman who takes care of herself - both in body and spirit. How can you take care of others without taking care of yourself first? Self care really sets the stage for you to improve in other aspects of your life! Let’s take care of our minds by taking breaks and meditating. Let’s thank our bodies for helping us achieve by eating well, getting enough sleep, making sure we are hydrated, applying sunblock, standing and stretching throughout the day. Every now and then, give your body some TLC with a day of pampering at the spa.
There’s just something sexy about smelling good. Whether it’s from your favorite bar of soap, healthy hair, or your favorite perfume, wear a scent that makes you happy.
WEAR SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD
You don’t have to be wearing body conscious clothes to feel sexy. If you know what works for you, do that, no need to follow fads or trends. As long as your clothes fit right you will look good and feel good. That goes for underwear too. It doesn’t have to be expensive, it can be just as simple as matching colors. Wear sexy underwear for yourself. It will be your little secret that will give you an added air of allure and mystery.
And here’s a bonus
Sometimes we want to look mysterious and intimidating, but a smile shows you are confident and charming can be disarming. Showing your killer smile immediately makes you look warmer and welcoming. It lights up your face and releases endorphins that elevate your mood and relax your body. Best of all, smiles are contagious and you are off to a great start.
This is not an exhaustive list. We’d love to hear what sexy means to you and what you do to feel sexy. Cheers, amor!